This is my testament, my rant and I dedicate this to the mama hustlers that get it done all day, errrrday.
I am a mama…and I’m sensitive s***
(if you know where that’s from, we can be friends).

Notice what I said first, “mom life.”
Family is my number one priority.
But the way my life, is set up…I have a husband, a child AAAAND a business I am trying to run.
“You ain’t got the answers Sway.”

I too have personal goals that are not related mommy and me dates, succeeding at a Pinterest project I’ve been planning for forever, or being first in the pick-up line (don’t act like you haven’t thought about it).
Growing my business, my brand is close to my heart and there are never enough minutes in the day to do it all.

With any success or growth, comes a great deal of time and commitment dedicated to making things happen.
One of the hardest things my son said to me was he felt like I was always on my computer and never had time for him.
Let me give you a little background, I was a single mom for a good portion of his toddler years. I worked a full-time job and some side hustles to make ends meet.
Fast-forward a few years, I met my husband, quit my job, got married and shortly after started my photography business (now add blogging to my plate). I wanted to work for myself so I could be there for all the little things I missed when he was younger.
So quality time to me is EVERYTHING.
He’s 8, so of course his concept of time or understanding of my need to answer those emails means very little to him. Pokemon is life and his mommy should be glued to watching the episode and reenacting the scene after.
He needs to feel like he is #1 and life doesn’t always allow that.

Mom guilt is real.
If you have kids, chances are you have felt it.
I promised myself I would never become a person that gave up her entire life for her kids/family. I believe that leads to resentment and a lack of self.

{my thoughts}
You were “you” before you met your husband, your boyfriend, your partner.
You were “you” before you decided to have a baby, got pregnant, and delivered your child.
You should still be “you” and a lil extra flava.

Although I may feel, act, and look different, at my core, I am still Tosha.
To say I want both, “family and career,” is easier said than done.

There might be days where you might not comb your hair, pull an all-nighter finishing a project, forget to pack their snacks or run late to a meeting.
Girl, that is OHkay. You are taking on the world.
No matter how helpful your spouse or significant other is, there is NOTHING harder than being a mother.
That’s life, it’s not supposed to be easy. But when you look at your babies and they say, “I love you,” sleep deprivation seems to be worth it lol.

You’re special, Alicia Keys put it together perfectly,
“Even when I’m a mess
I still put on a vest
With an S on my chest
Oh yes
I’m a Superwoman”

When you feel like you can’t, DO, and keep pushing.
Mommying is not for the faint at heart.
It takes a REAL WOMAN and you got this boo.


visuals by Marrica Evans
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